Why Flying is Too Stressful for Our Family

After I married my husband and we had four wonderful kids together, we figured flying would be a bit more complicated but still manageable with a bit of forethought. But when three of our children were diagnosed with ASD, we quickly realized we would have to adapt our vacation plans to be more accessible.

Kids with ASD can quickly get overwhelmed in unfamiliar spaces, and I knew the long TSA lines, loud airport noises and cramped airplane seats would make flying an anxiety-ridden nightmare for them and for me.

We did try flying with the kids a couple times. But the stress they picked up on the flight meant it took a few days before they began enjoying our vacation, and by then, it was nearly time to get back on the plane and head home.

Still, despite all the complications, I was determined my children would see and travel the world, and that we would share the journey joyfully. I was determined to pass my love for travel on to my kids.

RV Camping Makes Travel Fun Again

One day, my children’s therapist suggested renting an RV. That advice changed our lives. Our worry and anxiety about going on vacation disappeared when we stepped into the RV and it never returned.

There was never a question of seat assignments; my children could sit next to me, no questions asked! We weren’t rushed. We could stop whenever we wanted or needed. And with all the storage in the RV, I could bring along all the sensory tools that keep them calm: their favorite toys, games, crafts and electronic devices.

With their stress levels lowered, so were mine. Vacations became enjoyable again. In fact, my children often have a better time inside the RV than they do at our destination!

Minnesota Destinations for Our Upcoming RV Trips

Prior to the pandemic, we mostly used our RV for out-of-state trips. But during our year cooped up together under one roof, we spent a lot of time talking about the spots we wanted to visit right here in Minnesota.

My third grader, Brandon, had been learning all about Paul Bunyan in his virtual classroom. Being from Texas, I knew all the tall tales about Pecos Bill, but not so much about Minnesota's legendary lumberjack. 

First, we’ll set up for a few days at one of the RV campgrounds near Bemidji in northwest Minnesota to see the giant statues of Paul and Babe overlooking the lake. Once we’re done there, we’ll swing down to Brainerd to visit Paul Bunyan Land—a combination Bunyan-themed amusement park, petting zoo, pioneer village and campground. I can't wait to get some pictures of my kids posed under the giant statues—I can almost see my Christmas card photo already!

Of course, we won’t stop with just Paul Bunyan trips. We're also excited to take an overnight at Taylors Falls to walk the trails and check out the St. Croix River, and to drive down to Wabasha to look for eagles soaring over the Mississippi.

I'm also excited for the kids to spend some time on the North Shore, where we'll stick a toe into Lake Superior while we look for agates. They can’t wait to see Gooseberry Falls and tour Split Rock Lighthouse.

My anxiety about these activities is low because I know we can always pop into the RV for a nap, a book, a snack or to just chill if the trip suddenly feels overwhelming.

RV trips have opened the world to my kids and given them a major confidence boost. My heart bursts with pride watching them experience the joys of travel. They get to see the world through new eyes, broaden their horizons and soak up the knowledge other cultures can teach.

And I’m right there with them.